Life Experience

Value of Vulnerability

On Friday 22nd July 2016, it was the 25th anniversary of my father’s death at the age of 38. I don’t often talk about this, mainly because it happened so long ago, but also because it’s only recently that I’ve been able to emotionally connect with the reality of the situation. Thanks to the support… Continue reading Value of Vulnerability

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Life Experience

Breaking Free

For the longest time, I was unfaithful. To boyfriends/friends/partners/lovers – but mainly, to myself. I used and abused my own body. And not even for pleasure, but for power. I measured my worth in my appearance, and valued myself through other people’s eyes. I would feel the seductive power of the male gaze, and immediately… Continue reading Breaking Free

Life Experience

Why weight?

For many formative years of my adolescence and early adulthood, I was obsessed with my weight. Not in a fashion-conscious, aspiring to be a model way, but in a weight-controlled competitive martial art kind of way, which seemed to validate my obsession and legitimise my disordered approach to eating. The Taekwon-Do categories were based on… Continue reading Why weight?

Mental Health

Fear Of The Familiar

I can feel it now - it's like a coldness around my heart. A dull sensation in the pit of my stomach. Intermittently interrupted by nervous flutters. There's a sense of dread. Of heaviness. A resistance to moving, or doing, or being. I have never been formally diagnosed with anxiety or depression, so I never… Continue reading Fear Of The Familiar

Growth

Learning To Accept Kindness From Others

What do you do when you finally step out of the darkness of self-loathing and depression, and the light of love of admiration is too bright? How do you look directly at the beauty of people's words and gestures when you've spent years conditioning yourself to try to fix your broken self? How do you… Continue reading Learning To Accept Kindness From Others

Identity

Learning how to make (authentic) friends

I remember being a teenager and having this breakthrough realisation that if I was just really nice to everyone then they would have to like me and be my friend! Genius! I was obviously a lonely teenager, with very few friends. I didn’t know who I was, or who I wanted to be. I surrounded… Continue reading Learning how to make (authentic) friends